We are always learning. Every damn day. And sometimes the lesson smacks you in the face, but that is the one that will stick. Believe me I am a sponge when it comes to life lessons, but sometimes we don’t see ourselves or our behavior right away, so hopefully if you’re like me, you will see it as a good thing and take a better look at how you are reacting to your client during a reading.
A little peek into me as a Medium just for the sake of having a better understanding of my point of view. I LOVE what I do. It makes me happy to communicate with spirits. I am over the moon knowing that I can bring comfort to the living by being the voice for their loved ones on the other side of the veil. But truth be told, sometimes I like spirits more than people. They are easier to read and less complex than humans (myself included). I do this work to serve spirit. I signed up to be the messenger long ago and I have no regrets at all.
Most of the time when someone books a reading they know what to expect. Nine times out of ten they have been to a Medium or at the very least have watched one on television or the internet. I also have regular customers that come twice a year. I love my clients. I always end up becoming friendly with a lot of them because we bond during the reading. It is a very heart warming experience and I bring no bullshit to the table, so we end up crying or laughing together and a nice rapport is created.
And then there are the moments when your client is sitting in front of you and every spirit coming forward is not making sense to them. Gahhhhh!! It happens to the best of us. We are human after all. But here is the entire reason for writing this blog tonight. I am human, and can certainly misinterpret a symbol or a name or age. You are human, and will absolutely have sudden amnesia when it comes to remembering all those that have crossed over. Remember, not every spirit that steps forward is a family member, or someone you had a close relationship with. Anyone you have ever known, even for a brief time in your life can step forward for a quick hello. And why shouldn't they? The ones you were close with will show up, too... but this isn’t the lunch table in High School where only the cool kids can sit down. Spirit is all about the love. Humans, not so much. We are a little more rigid. And I get that. But it’s best not to have too much expectation of who you WANT to come through because you will miss so many other messages. Also, you may encounter a spirit related to someone you are close to here, and then YOU get to be the messenger and let them know that so-and so stopped by and wants to say X,Y and Z.
I had this very thing happen recently. I had a very lovely client, she was a repeat customer and went on to tell me that her last reading earlier this year was spot on. I was happy to hear that, of course. So I began the reading. Since I do Tarot as well, I always begin with spirit communication because spirit tends get anxious and I don’t want to keep them waiting. Then I lay out the cards. But for some reason my client did not connect with any of the spirits that stepped forward. Not right away. I should also mention that my client had a friend with her who had a reading that night as well. The friend was in the other room and could easily hear what I was giving to my client. For every piece of spirit evidence that came through, her answer was NO. I wish I could tell you I wasn’t getting frustrated. My ego was creeping in and I knew what I was seeing and since I trust spirit wholeheartedly, I wasn’t budging. All I could do was tell her to write down the information and hope that it would click at a later time. In my experience, even as a previous client it always makes sense later on when our minds are a bit more calm. So I proceeded to break out the cards. I began with my usual spread of three past cards. I read for her what I saw and guess what? She couldn’t make sense of it. I was baffled. This is the same woman that said her reading earlier in the year was spot on. I didn’t want to continue. I was confused because all the info that was coming to me was crystal clear. Why wasn’t she getting it? Why was it not making sense? Thankfully her friend had been read first that night and was in the other room yelling out that it did indeed make perfect sense, but my client was not thinking clearly. As a psychic medium who also happens to be empathic, I feel ashamed to tell you that instead of picking up that my client was having a bad couple of months, I let my ego get in and allowed myself to get frustrated instead of showing love and understanding. After the first three cards were laid out, and her friend chimed in, she admitted that the very thing I told her in her last reading did come true, and it had her so distraught and distracted that she was only focusing on that and nothing else. Poor thing had tunnel vision and needed clarity and answers. She did get those answers. We both got emotional and did a little breathing exercise before continuing. But She got what she came for. But what I got was so much more. I got a lesson that I will never forget. I don’t care how psychic you are. You never really know what is going on in someone’s mind. Always be kind. People are not always in a good place. Your clients may not always be cheerful and centered. They came to you for a reason. Put your heart in front of your ego before you get frustrated. Be soft and take their hand so they know they are not alone. Then kindly show them your light, and lead the way.
~ Denise Marie, Psychic Medium